This month in Jilley Sue’s coaching group (which you can join here), we are reading Girl Code by Cara Alwill Leyba. I love reading so I’m nearly finished already so I wanted to share a few reasons why it rocks and how it’s helping me plan for rocking my business in the future!
So Girl Code focuses on helping female entrepreneurs become their best selves in all areas of their lives- personal and business. If you have seen the #bossbabe photos circulating Facebook or Instagram, it’s kind of the same concept- girl power, empowerment and independent women. One of the founders of #bossbabe is actually interviewed in the book which gave me a new perspective into the company.
It’s end of the month (October) and for my network marketing/direct sales friends that means one thing- the inevitable congratulatory posts on people rank advancing. I will admit I used to be so jealous and would shut notifications off the groups I was in to avoid what I saw as “people beating me”. In one of my network marketing companies I spent the most time building, people I went through company training with easily rank advanced me and fast. So I was left wondering “why not me?”
One thing that resonated with me about Girl Code is that she teaches you to learn to celebrate success. This is also known as the law of attraction. The law of attraction is based on the idea that energy attracts energy, so if you are sitting around wondering why it isn’t you and dreading hearing another person rank advanced before you, you are allowing more negative energy into your life. So what should you do? Celebrate success. Congratulate those people that are rank advancing before you in hopes that being positive brings more positive energy into your life. And for those wanting to take it one step further- reach out to those people having successes and pick their brains. Find out how they got where they are.
Girl Code also tackles jealousy and dealing with the haters. Being a female business owner can still in some circles be going “against the grain”. Putting yourself and your business out there online can open you up to criticism and negativity, so how do you deal when that happens? One of my favorite quotes I found recently is “if you don’t know them personally, don’t take it personal”. Hard but still truthful. Cara talks a lot in her book about hurt people hurt other people which I think is so true when you consider why people lash out or try to tear you down. One of my other favorite mentors, Robert Hollis always cautions against dream stealers. Don’t let people shake you from your goals or your passions. As Taylor Swift would say “Shake It Off”.
My other big takeaway from Girl Code is the idea of collaboration especially with other women. I think all too often we limit ourselves and guard our businesses so people don’t steal our business. Don’t fall into this trap. Girl Code is all about the concept of “limitless luxe” which means there’s enough to go around. Think about this- do you follow every blog? Do you buy every product? Do you read every book? The answer here is of course not- there’s not enough time or money. But here’s some other food for thought- you aren’t going to be everyone’s cup of tea and that’s okay. People go with people they know, like and trust. People go with people and products that resonate with them. There’s enough business to go around. Look at the most successful women you know- chances are they are huge collaborators and promote each other instead of tearing each other down. Why? Because they trust it will come back to them and believe in themselves enough to promote others.
The book has really changed my perspective on a lot of things especially about congratulating others successes. It’s helped me as I plan out the future of this blog to realize that there’s probably a lot of other moms out there trying to hustle to bring in extra money who also felt this way. I get it- I know it’s challenging to be on a limited budget and want to do so much more. Then you see others getting ahead it can not be a fun feeling to wish them well. But one day, you could be that person getting the well wishes and wouldn’t you want people to congratulate you on a job well done?
Check out the book and let me know what you think. Tell me in the comments what’s the best piece of advice you have gotten for your business lately.